Trying to change others, wanting them to be the way we want them to be, just doesn’t work…
The above quote continues that “The alternative, though, is unthinkable to many people: to just let others be however they want to be. Even when it’s annoying.” The “alternative” Babauta mentions is crucial to acceptance, coping, and moving on from hard times. If we just start accepting what we cannot change, life can be made a lot less stressful.
This is very important to do because, you’ll inevitably face people you don’t particularly like and you’ll always be faced with difficult situations that are simply inevitable. Because of this, the best way to deal with these situations is to do so wit compassion. Remember these things when faced with a difficult person or situations
To remind myself that I don’t control others.
To remind myself that other people can live their lives however they want.
To see the good in them.
To let go of an ideal that I have that’s causing the frustration.
To see that when others are being difficult, they are having a hard time coping. And to empathize with this.
To remember when I’ve had a hard time, when I struggled with change, when I’ve been frustrated.
To do what I can to help them: to be of service, to listen, to make them feel heard, to make them feel accepted.
I’m not good at this yet, but when I find my way, it helps. It makes me less frustrated, it helps me to be more mindful, it improves my relationships, it helps others feel better. I wish this for all of you.
Resources: zenhabits.com “When Others Frustrate You”